The Need to Find a Virtuous Community

Do not be deceived: "Bad company ruins good morals." - 1 Cor. 15:33

I think there are only a handful of more heartbreaking instances than when one can do nothing while his loved ones get washed away amongst bad influences. In some cases, a father watches his daughter give her dignity away for attention, too stubborn to listen to his advice. In other cases, a girlfriend watches her high school sweetheart of a boyfriend plunge into a culture of objectification and barbaric hedonism amongst his "brothers." In some other cases, a friend would watch one of his best friends swept away by her new set of friends, being turned into one of the most judgmental and spiteful person he knows, the kind the public would love to hate.

     In all these cases, the ones watching their loved ones corrupted by bad influences would be powerless in that they cannot hope to break the stubbornness of those being corrupted. The efforts to convince those who are being morally corrupted increases as they further plunge into the abyss. The more morally corrupt one gets, the more does one deprived of good conscience. How can a person judge one's own actions to be bad when one is deprived of correct conscience? In all these cases I have mentioned, the root cause is a vicious community.

     Through a vicious community, a daughter becomes rebellious to a point where she distances herself from one who gave her flesh and blood. Through a vicious community, a thought-to-be-soulmate turns into a deadend heartbreak. Through a vicious community, a friend who was one of the kindest person on earth turns into a spirit of hate. However, the biggest tragedy in these cases is perhaps the fact that, through deprived conscience, these individuals being corrupted cannot determine what is giving cause to their corruption.

     To avoid such tragedy, therefore, it is critical to have a knowledge of certain situations. To be situationally aware, one must let go of individualistic desires and start seeing the relationships one has as a whole. A daughter ought to see herself in relation to her father, a boyfriend to his girlfriend, and a friend to one's own closest friends. When one can do so, one will see just how much certain communities bring higher fulfilment than others, thus creating a heightened motivation to resist the temptations of other less adequate communities.

     In recognizing such superior  - virtuous - communities, a person is able to seek after better situations.